Books for Sad and Scary Times

blog graphic comfortI had planned to write a different post, but I’m finding it hard to disengage myself from what is going on in Boston; this is particularly true because my son has been told to shelter in place in his neighborhood and can see the media clustered outside his window. I know I, personally, need to take a break from the continuous coverage of the terrible events that have been unfolding…even if only to address it here.

Very young children need to be shielded from the nightmarish images on the news; the older the children, however, the more difficult it is to completely protect them from something of this scale and magnitude. The trusted adults in their lives will be called upon to help them cope with their feelings and attempt to answer their questions.

Some of you might find your answers in religion and through prayer, and if you can provide comfort in this way, that’s great. But be aware that children are experiencing most of the same feelings that you are, even though they might express and deal with these feelings in different, age-appropriate ways.

I looked for books that might invite children to consider and discuss their reactions to scary and sad events and this is what I found:

Aliki—FeelingsFeelings by Aliki (ages 4 – 8) is good for children who are struggling with identifying and expressing their emotions. Different stories and engaging illustrations accompany each feeling and will, hopefully, spark discussion.

How Are You Peeling?How Are You Peeling? by Saxton Freymann and Joost Eiffers (ages 4 – 8) offers a creative and whimsical way to explore feelings. Photographs showcase foods with moods; this team has found various fruits and vegetables that each appear to convey an emotion and then attached two black-eyed peas for eyes, the results being surprisingly effective (I considered saying appealing, for my husband’s amusement). You and your grandchild might want to experiment similarly with produce—all mistakes being edible.

A Terrible Thing HappenedA Terrible Thing Happened—A story for children who have witnessed violence or trauma by Margaret Holmes and Cary Pillo (ages 4 – 10) wisely never shows what the main character—Sherman Smith— witnessed, so it can be applied to any appropriate scenario.Through the story, children will be reassured that it is normal for a whole host of emotions, such as sadness, anger, fear, confusion, frustration, to arise from witnessing violence and trauma. When Sherman opens up to the school counselor, they will also understand that while we often try to hide from such scary feelings, it is best to talk about it with a trusted adult. Pillo’s poignant illustrations complement the telling. An afterword written for parents and other caregivers offers suggestions and lists resources for helping traumatized children.

Badthings-210-expSometimes Bad Things Happen by Ellen Jackson (ages 4 – 8) features bright photographs of sad and bad things happening and children’s facial reactions; the book offers simple coping strategies such as hugging a friend, singing a brave song and planting a flower. As you read together, encourage your grandchildren to acknowledge their feelings and then brainstorm positive ways to respond.

When Bad ThingsAs for me, I am thinking of rereading the classic When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold Kushner. Rabbi Kushner wrestles with this issue in a very personal, clear and intelligent manner after his young son is diagnosed with a terminal illness. Actually, this would be a valuable suggestion for teenagers, if they are receptive.

Whatever you do, I hope you find solace and have a peaceful evening.

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8 thoughts on “Books for Sad and Scary Times

  1. Jane Small April 19, 2013 at 9:29 pm Reply

    Very thoughtful post, Belinda. As I struggle to to explain the horrors of this week to my own young children, the idea of using books to try and explain it all is a wonderful post. Thanks so much for suggesting it.

    • belindambrock April 19, 2013 at 9:33 pm Reply

      Thanks for visiting my blog, Jane. I realize that it’s hard to explain things which actually make no sense to grown-ups, either – sometimes the right book can help. Good luck.

  2. Max Brock April 20, 2013 at 7:40 am Reply

    thought this was a perfect post given this past week. Keep up the good work, beebs!

    On Fri, Apr 19, 2013 at 10:14 PM, grandbooking

  3. Linda Berkson April 20, 2013 at 5:23 pm Reply

    very helpful post belinda. i am familiar with some of the books but not all so these are great to know about. thanks so much!

    • belindambrock April 20, 2013 at 5:39 pm Reply

      thanks for stopping by, linda! i’m glad you found the post useful; as a former teacher, you know a book can offer the right entree for children who are reluctant or who are searching for the language to express how they’re feeling.

  4. Grandma Kc April 22, 2013 at 3:50 pm Reply

    What great suggestions — thank you! Sometimes a book can explain things much better than we can and it makes it less “close to home” for the children.

  5. belindambrock April 22, 2013 at 4:45 pm Reply

    hi grandma! i appreciate your comments, and I suppose that’s true of adults as well.

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